Three Women by Lisa Taddeo has been billed as a book about desire, which might suggest something positive or empowering – “I desire x and therefore I shall have it.” It is in fact, quite the opposite.
Taddeo delves into the far-reaching reverberations of particular events in the lives of three women. It is overly simplistic and in fact false, to say that the women’s stories begin with desire of a sexual nature. More accurately, each of the women have complex emotional needs (as a result of rape, sexual assault, a history of self-harming behaviour, cultural expectations, and challenging family circumstances) that are, to a certain extent, expressed in their sexual relationships. I emphasise their emotional needs because as their stories unfold it is painfully clear that what they are seeking (what they ‘desire’) will never be found in the relationships with the (abusive) men they are drawn to.
We pretend to want things we don’t want so nobody can see us not getting what we need. Continue reading
It’s time for #6degrees. Start at the same place as other wonderful readers, add six books, and see where you end up.
I had every intention of reading this month’s starting book, Three Women by Lisa Taddeo, but didn’t quite get to it. My understanding is that it tracks the personal lives of three women over the course of many years. Continue reading